Y o u r s

I like to help. I like to be of service. I get a lot out of it. I’m interested in doing “good work” and for me the fastest way to do that was to get onboard a “good work project”. For the most part this was fine - spending my time (and resources) helping those I thought were doing good, worthwhile work. However, somehow something was still “missing”

What I didn't understand though was my self-image was tangled up with the projects I was involved in and one day I realised a couple of things:

• Helping others with their ‘game’ is not the same as playing my own game.
• Just because some 'guru' has developed a process doesn't mean they are enlightened.
• Other people's processes are other people's processes.
  
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• Until true enlightenment is accessed there will be gurus and processes that "show the way" or "enable" or "allow". There will be other people's game to play, things to 'get onboard' with.

It seems to me that enlightenment is about finding my own game.

With this thought byoGuru was born. A mnemonic device to aide in training my thoughts, byoGuru is a call to action to be my own guru.

Why? 

byoGuru requires me to be accountable, taking ownership, getting out of victimhood, knowing when & how to ask for help, and to be conscious when making choices.

byoGuru is not about being a rugged individual, a hero, a know-it-all. It is about knowing ourselves so that we can make truly conscious choices. Knowing that improving our lot in life begins with improving ourselves, that improving ourselves sometimes requires help from other people.

I still like to help. It is a truism that people like to help. For me helping another with their work/ project/ game/ versus playing my own game is a lot clearer now.

Fulfilment through other people’s projects is necessarily temporary and while it might be okay in the short term, playing my own game is where the 'juice' is.

During the challenging life moments I invite you to ask yourself the question:

"Who's game is it any way?"